Where Does Your Jealousy Come From?

Insecurity is the root of most problems in life.

When we’re not grateful for what we already have we tend to look at what others have.

Do you spend time noticing the difference between your life and others?

You could wonder that your neighbour has a patio, your co-worker has a private office or your friend has a big car.

Rings a bell?

The truth is, doing this can be the best way to waste your precious time.

Unless you do that to source inspiration, there’s not point of comparing and analyzing how others live their lives while not being happy with yours.

If you’re not inspired by other people’s lives then you’re likely to be jealous by them. But where does your jealousy come from?

In most cases, jealousy comes from the lack of self-satisfaction. When you’re not satisfied with your current state, the grass is always going to be greener on the other side.

As human beings we tend to have unlimited requests while having limited resources. So if you build the habit of jealousy, you won’t be able to overcome it by achieving more.

Because you’ll never be done acquiring. When you get a raise, you also increase your spending and this never-ending cycle continues until the last day of your life.

But the story can change when you realize that you don’t have to have everything that other people have.

Life can be a beautiful experience even if you never reach a level that some other people have. Everything can change when you realize the feeling of jealousy comes from you.

No one can force you to feel jealous but you.

Successful people don’t feel jealous when someone else has more. They’ve learned to be satisfied with the current situation while working hard on reaching their goals.

This is called the state of flow, where your happiness is not tied to whether you achieve your goals or not.

Now, how do you beat jealousy?

You pretty much have two options. One requires effort to get what you want and that start by increasing your self-awareness about what exactly you want.

The other one requires accepting your limitations and not letting them bring you down.

Regardless of your situation, there are areas of your life where you have something that others don’t.

You can shift your mind and instead of looking at what you don’t have, you can start noticing what you have that others don’t.

Maybe you can notice your apartment has a larger living room, your desk is next to the window and your small car could be parked anywhere.

You see, it’s all in your head and it’s always up to you to see the glass as half full or half empty.

There are no universal laws that dictate any of these. And the best way to overcome your jealousy is to increase your confidence by being grateful for what you already have.

I hope this has helped you realize where your jealousy comes from and has given you the courage to take control over it so you can live a happier life.

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When to Get More Help

An extra hand never hurts.

No matter what you’re working on, you can always get more help. The only problem is we don’t always know how to get it.

Now… this happens for a couple of reasons.

We either think we can do everything ourselves or we think people are not willing to help.

The thing is both of those are not true.

People are more than willing to help if you know how to ask. And you need to accept that you’re not able to do everything alone.

There are only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in a week. You can’t stretch time and if you try to do everything yourself, you won’t be as productive as you hope to be.

It’s obvious you need more help and it’s time to change how you think about getting more help.

The good news is you don’t always have to ask for it. When you do what you love to do, you will attract the help you need.

Sure, you may say no one knows how to do it the way you would do it. And that can be true to some extent while depending on the task at it.

But the truth is, if you know how to build systems and procedures, you’ll be able to get other people to help you in no time.

It all comes down to how well-organized you are with what you do. If you always see yourself as the only one who can do what you do then it’s you that’s limiting you.

Instead, you can focus on the results without being limited to who does the work. If the outcome is high quality, does it matter who did the job?

Of course, there are many parts to any important task and from time to time you may have to wear different hats. But the fact is you’re not going to be great at all of them.

Your mind could picture all the parts like if they’re puzzle pieces that need to come together and get done by you.

And guess what?

No, they don’t have to. You won’t be able to excel at everything anyway. You may only be good at one, two or three things max.

These are your gifts. Your strengths and the type of things you need to focus on. And for the rest, you need to learn to get help.

What you want to do on your own is what you’d do even if money was no object. Something you’d do that you will never feel bored with.

We all have something that when we do it we get to our flow state and lose track of time. It could be writing, playing music, swimming, or anything else.

The point is to keep yourself busy only with that kind of work and for everything else, build systems so you can get more help.

Because the only way to be successful is to know your gifts and strengths while leveraging other people’s strength where you have a weakness.

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Why do Good Things Take Their Time?

Nothing worth keeping comes easy.

You may have heard that before but do you know why they say that?

It’s not a surprise that good things indeed take their time and this happens for two main reasons.

The first one is the most popular one.

Good things take their time because you’re not ready for them. In most cases, you may just be wishing without having a plan or the motivation for taking action.

Words can be cheap. Anyone can say what they want but without putting the hard work it will always remain a wish.

No matter how hard you try, if things happen for you easily you will never be able to appreciate them.

So instead of complaining why good things take their time, a better thing to do is getting ready for them. And the best way to do that is by taking the first step to overcoming resistance.

When you get something done, you have a small win that will fuel your next challenge.

If you keep having small wins, they will soon create your big wins and that’s how you get to what you want.

Of course, this will take time and that’s because when you dream big, you have no choice but to be patience, execute on your plan and keep an eye on your vision.

When you learn to be grateful for your opportunities, you start to attract more of them. This happens in a natural way because you’ve learned how things work.

Another reason for good things taking their time is the distance from where you are to where you want to be.

Most of the items we consider as good things are usually big things.

You may want to make $1 Million a year, get 6 pack abs or learn new languages. These are all BIG THINGS!

Even if you’re ready, when you have moonshot dreams you have to accept that it will take a long time to get there.

As an ambitious person you may be having difficulty putting up with the wait time but it’s important to look at your past.

It’s not always about how far you are from your goal but more about how far you’ve come.

It’s up to you to change your impression of time and you have the power to decide on that feeling.

You can do that by appreciating your progress and increasing your-self awareness about your powers and limitations.

Focusing on the distance ahead is not going to get you there. It will only overwhelm you and lead to potentially giving up on your goals.

Next time you feel like something you want to be done is taking its time, take an extra few seconds and look at how big it is and how far you’ve come.

It’s easy to get lost in the little details and lose on the big picture but sometimes you just need to run a reality check on your goals.

I hope this has helped you realize the main reasons behind good things taking their time so you can enjoy the journey as much as the destination.

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How to Get Everything You Want in Life?

Wishing for what you want is not going to help you get it.

To get what you want in life you need a proper strategy and that’s more than having a good intention and willpower.

So how do you find the right strategy?

Well, you don’t have to try too hard. There’s enough history for whatever it is that you’re after. You just have to look around you and see who’s done it before.

One of the simplest ways to do that is finding a role model. You need to find an individual who TODAY is living the life you want to live TOMORROW.

Ideally, this person is a few years ahead of you and has already been through most of the ups and downs of the same journey as you.

This person doesn’t not always have to do the same work as you do but both of you tend to work for the same powerful purpose.

You could both have goals like having more free time, making more money, getting a healthier body or a more creative mind.

Most successful people share their stories by leveraging their personal brands which makes it easier to learn more about them.

By following their steps you get to notice a few patterns in how they talk or how they do things. There’s a reason behind everything they do.

For example, if you want more free time in your life, you need to find a role model who lives that life. Someone whose life is full of systems and automation.

The good news is, most of the job is done once you know who exactly that person is.

The rest is analyzing and experimenting. But your chance of success is much higher because of the track record of your role model.

You should read their books, watch their videos, listen to their interviews, do whatever you can to learn the most you can.

And when the time’s right and you have something to offer, you should look for opportunities to create value for them.

By being helpful and creating value for your role model you get to learn even deeper. You become a part of their lives and the learning becomes second nature.

Their success rubs off of you and that’s the best way to get everything you want in life. Because no matter what you are after someone has it now and is willing to share it with you.

What could hold you back may be your ego who wants to figure everything out on its own. But you know what?

Don’t let that happen. Accept some people may know more about something you want in life. They have tips and strategies you can follow.

They’ve learned the hard way so you don’t have to.

Don’t be stubborn. Nail down what you want. Find yourself a role model and take action while following.

While it’s important to follow some basic rules, you don’t always have to do everything the way they do, you can add your own spices.

I hope this has helped you realize how much power you have in your hands to get everything you want in life.

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Where are Great Relationships Made?

Relationships are the safest investments with the highest yields.

In life, you may accumulate a lot of material things but that can all go away in an instant.

Economies shift, currencies plummet, and bad things can happen at any time. But no one can take away your relationships.

If there’s only one area that you could make more investments in, let it be your relationships. It will not lead to disappointments.

But before you drop everything and start calling everyone, it’s worth to cover a few important things.

First of all, not all relationships are made equal. And like investment, you should do your homework first before going all in.

Like all good things in life, it takes time for a great relationship to get to fruition. This means you need to pace it and not rush it.

Second of all, not anything called relationship has to be romantic, so most of these apply to all types of them.

And finally, great relationships are not matched, they are made. Sure, someone can make an introduction but there’s no guarantee for that to succeed without your effort.

Great relationships also have a natural flow to them, they get started at the right time and at the right place.

There are times when they can flourish effortlessly but that’s because of the right synergy between two people. It creates an equal opportunity for both sides to grow.

So how many of these great relationships can you handle?

Well, there’s the concept of Dunbar’s Number which suggests we can only maintain stable social relationships with up to 150 people.

In these relationships, each individual knows who every other person is and how they relate to each other.

But in reality, that number is much lower. Just think of your own life and see how many of those relationships you are in.

It’s true that you need to be always meeting new people and not be limiting yourself to a specific number.

But it’s also good to be aware of our human limitations to maintain meaningful relationships.

Even if you end up having 50 great relationships that help you grow, you’ll have an amazing life to be proud of. Are 50 not enough? Well, you don’t need to stop there if you have the time for it.

Working with people is one of the best ways to start building great relationships. Nothing brings people closer to each other than sharing wins and fails together.

In great relationships, you go through ups and downs with someone else who shares the same concerns and outcomes. That’s the key to success.

Traveling is another great way to get the same results. When you go on a trip with someone, small or big doesn’t matter, you’ll end up going through the same challenge and hopefully the same reward.

It can take anytime between 6 months to 6 years for a great relationship to reach its full potential and no one knows the exact date.

But the point here is to be aware of the importance of trust and respect in a relationship while creating value for others.

I hope this has inspired you to start investing more in your relationships and be able to find the good ones so you can double down on them.

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