It takes enormous time and effort to get what you want in life. So to choose your goals, you can ask yourself what are you willing to suffer for.
Anything worth keeping comes the hard way and as you go through it, you’ll end up suffering in some way. Not to worry, we all do.
You work late, you study hard, you exercise often but you don’t always get the results you wished for.
Being tired of trying and not getting what you want is the recipe for suffering. But why do you suffer?
You suffer because you have a desire inside of you that burns like a flame. It’s a burning fire that can only be put down by getting what you want.
It’s the same fire that motivated you to start going after your goals in the first place. But the same fire can and most likely will make you suffer in the process.
The good news is, once you become aware of this fire, you get to be much more selective about the goals you choose to pursue.
This self-awareness is all you need to test your desire and make sure what you’re going after is worth suffering for.
This suffering can come in different forms and shapes. You may have to sacrifice family, sleep, money, and most importantly time.
Even the food you eat takes some form of suffering before it comes to your table. Your rent, your school tuition, you name it. To have them all, you’ve got to put up with a lot of things.
Nobody owes you anything. To get what you want, you have to work hard at it, be willing to suffer and be humble enough to appreciate the pain.
Suffering hurts and nobody likes pain but when you understand why it hurts it changes the game. It’s like suffering but not suffering at the same time.
On the one hand, you suffer when you hit an obstacle but on the other hand, you have the self-awareness you need to know the pain is worth the gain.
Now the only thing you have to worry about is making sure you’re suffering for the right things. In that case, you don’t feel the pain as much. You feel the suffering but you won’t let go.
Pain exists so we can let go of what hurts us but there are a few things in life that make us hold on. Like family and friendship or anything bigger than ourselves, like nationality and faith.
Remember, you may not be able to control everything in your life. But you can always control what you choose to suffer for.
If it’s worth it and you can handle the pain, keep going. But if it hurts so bad and you can’t take the pain, drop it now and let go.
Suffering is not always a bad thing if it’s for the right cause. We need suffering in our lives because you’d never be able to appreciate something you didn’t suffer for.
I hope this has helped you to lose your fear of suffering, make a list of what’s bothering you right now and ask again what are you willing to suffer for?
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